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Oct
24

Parents Post Embarrassing Photos on Social Media

Parents Post Embarrassing Pictures Of Themselves On Daughter’s Facebook As Punishment

The rise of social media has changed work, play — and many aspects of parenting. For some moms and dads, it has even provided new ways to discipline. In the latest edition of “I’m getting back at my child on Facebook,” one couple has taken to the social network to embarrass their daughter in a highly creative way.

Instead of a traditional punishment, the mom and dad of two used their daughter’s cellphone to post silly (read: mortifying) pictures of themselves on her Facebook wall. The girl’s brother, Reddit user AustinMac posted one of the photos (see below) over the weekend with the caption: “My parents took away my sisters phone for the week. They’ve uploaded about 10 of these to her facebook. Doing it right!”

His sister’s offense? “She got fresh,” AustinMac told a fellow Redditor.
Reactions to the parents’ public punishment are varied — The Daily What calls mom and dad “kickass” while some Redditors expressed sympathy for their daughter.

“I also remember being a teenager though. Something like this would have been about the most horrifying experience of my life. I feel for the sister,” rohinton wrote.
As public online punishments continue to make news, many debate whether virtual discipline is acceptable and effective or does more harm than good. When Tommy Jordan shot his daughter’s laptop because she posted rude remarks about her parents online, video of his performance not only went viral, but he received feedback that ranged from harsh criticism and glowing praise for his actions.

And when Denise Abbott, posted the status, “I do not know how to keep my [mouth shut]. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why,” on her 13-year-old’s Facebook wall, she received mixed reviews as well. Chicago Now blogger “kirby” wrote, “Facebook is a social media site for people to interact. NOT a place where you can humiliate your child.”

Alfie Kohn, author of, “Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason” says that humiliating kids in public is counterproductive. “‘Doing to’ strategies — as opposed to those that might be described as ‘working with’ — can never achieve any result beyond temporary compliance, and it does so at a disturbing cost,” Kohn told HuffPost columnist Lisa Belkin in an interview.

In this case, commenters seem to mostly agree that posting embarrassing photos like the one below is playful, not destructive.

What do you think? Did these parents cross a line? Or is it all in good fun?

Comments

  1. Juliana Barnet says:

    I agree with Alfie Kohn! Play is between equals with equal power. Humiliation has no place in it. Teasing, joking, and so on are all fine, but any time you bring the public into a private dispute, trouble ensues. And in the case of parents and children, no matter what it may feel like at a given moment–and I’m the parent of a teenager, so I know!–in terms of the social institution, parents have power and rights that children do not, and this is always the backdrop of any interaction and must be taken into account. You can check these things by reversing roles: if a child posts an embarrassing photo, are the risks and consequences similar to those incurred by the parents? Clearly not. But, to return to Alfie Kohn, the most important thing is to be collaborative, not punitive. This in no way precludes taking a very firm, principled stand with your children–it just means not humiliating them and causing more problems!

  2. Oh come on – That’s Funny!
    But MORE than that.. They Cared Enough to DO all of those things. To dress up and do ridiculous posses and such.
    When truth be told.. A LOT of Parents are either too busy, or too tired to get involved in their kid’s life past: ‘How was your day?’ -fine. ‘good’.
    But you Just KNOW they had conversations after THOSE Pictures! (ha!)

    So Good for them for caring enough to Make a Point – Any needed point
    – When sadly most Parents are either Too Busy, or Too Tired to do more than the 5 second interaction of:
    “How Was Your Day?” – “fine.” – “Good.” – The End.

    So what we have here is a kid who’s Loved – Looked after – And who have Parents that actually
    Care Enough to be involved in their child’s life. Oh the humanity! :)

  3. I don’t think what they did is all that bad. She should be grateful that they chose to take silly pictures of themselves over taking embarrassing pictures of their daughter and posting them to her Facebook.

  4. Don’t have chilrin’s myself, but me thinks this may have crossed the line a little bit.

  5. Christopher Lehnherr says:

    I think this was all in good fun! I can so picture Roseanne and Dan doing this to Becky if Facebook had been around during that time! But in all honesty, parents have been embarrassing their kids in public forever! Now we have social media that has taken over the majority of social interaction, why are we not allowed to do the same? I applaud the fact that the parents know the password to get into their daughter’s account and to me it shows they care. :)